You ever notice why you’re  drawn to someone’s advice over another? One person can give you the most clearest reasons why the path you are choosing is wrong. Yet you sometimes repeatedly, take the path that causes you the most pain. I believe this is because you may feel more aligned with the wrong path. Let me explain. If you have a negative view of yourself, you will tend to be more drawn to the advice of others, that align with that negative view. It is literally the path of least resistance. I think this is why sometimes people stay in abusive relationships. The abuse they receive, confirms the negative view they already have of themselves.And even though friends or family tell them they are worthy of more…they have trouble accepting it, because it is contrary to their pre-established internal view.Ultimately, we need to define ourselves internally and not externally. But what if that internal belief system is already flawed? If we have already internally established that we are unworthy, no little frekin post-It notes of positive affirmations, is going to make any difference. This is because positive affirmations or even our actual positive actions for that matter…are still just external things. And our internal beliefs will refuse to accept them, as they do not align with them. So the key is then… to work on first changing the internal belief systems, that we have already established. And by choosing to create a positive internal space…any growth (be it internal or external) will grow naturally, in a positive and aligned way.